You know, this sort of thing is on my mind a lot too (especially since just getting married, though we've created an established pattern for household work from living together beforehand), because A) we have a deeply, deeply unequal division of labor and B) I enjoy it. I mean, I was a soc major--read Hochschild's Second Shift and neo-Marxian theories on exploitation of housework and all of that--and yet I do 99% of the household tasks. I can totally totally understand and respect your careful division of labor, and yet the constant negotiating and work that would be necessary to maintain something like that for us would be more onerous than doing things I actually enjoy, like cooking and making budgets. It's unpaid, but in the scenario where I do the work, I can (and do) obtain gratitude and appreciation for the work, while in the scenario where we work out who does what when, we'd both be unhappy.

And yet I feel selfish, for keeping him ignorant and helpless in the household. He's mentioned a couple of times that he'd like to learn how to cook, and he has great knife skills (better than me), but doing things for him does something for me.

So, I feel like I've succumbed to the patriarchy if I do the chores, and yet like I'm being selfish by taking them away from him. A girl can't win. I'm going to go weep into my cheesecake batter.